There's this guy on lavalife. He's messaged me twice. Email #1: he wanted to know when we could meet. I told him I'd rather sent a few more notes back and forth first, and decide IF we should meet. Email #2: he wants to know what kind of kissing I like, whether or not I like massages, and what constituties a romantic evening.
This is right up there with strangers calling me sexy.
A stranger would probably go for flowers and a nice dinner. That stranger would probably turn me right off. Roses remind me of an ex who used to buy them for me when he had cheated on me (again) or broken something I cherished. I hate roses. Especially red ones.
Romance is so dependent on mood, and on the person you're with. One of the most memorable 'romantic' evenings I can think of with Mr Wonderful was a game of Trivial Pursuit. With three of my cousins, an aunite, and my Grandma, but Mr Wonderful kept dropping hints and allusions to private jokes between him and I, and, at the same time, entertained a bunch of people I loved dearly. He didn't especially want to be there that day, but came because of me. That's romantic.
Mr UK keeps emailing me links to web design/building tutorials, and to shareware and open source programs that he thinks I would be interested in. Often, attached to sweet notes about how well I am doing with my learning html.
One guy took me for lunch at my favorite restaraunt, then took me to the SPCA and talked me into buying a dog. He didn't last, but I still think of him all the time - I do love the dog to bits.
These things all stuck out in my mind as romantic. Mr UK would never take me dog shopping, and it probably wouldn't feel romantic if he did. But, he does know me well enough to know that free software is a great gift. It's the caring and acknowledgement in the gesture that makes it romantic to me. I'm not a Hallmark kinda gal, and romance has to be personal...
Oh, yeah, and I don't imagine there will ever BE a first date with Mr Romantic on lavalife...
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Yea, Mr. Lavalife sounds like he needs to get a life, huh?
I agree with you about romance completely. The simplest gestures can mean so much because they are very personal and indicate that the person knows us very well.
Seems like Mr Lavalife doesn't really want to get to know you, so much as get to know the inside of you.
I get the impression that he is following some sort of rule book for how to get a girl's attention - the stuff about romance and kissing might have gotten my interest, had it come at a more appropriate time (as in, maybe after we had gotten to know each other a bit), but under the current circumstances, it seems like a ploy to get me into bed...
Oh geesh.
Do men really think women like that shit?
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